Parents Disown Child, Contact Now-Adult Child Years Later Asking For Money

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    Font - Posted by u/Born-Problem-8280 9 days ago A 24e 3 3 AITA for refusing to help my parents even if they end up homeless with serious medical conditions? Not the A-hole I (28F) was raised by super religious parents. It was a fight to be able to go to a normal college and not a Christian one with weird rules. When I did that they said they will not he paying for my schooling untill I "come back to the right path" After struggling for a couple of months a friend told me that the strip club she
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    Font - Now my parents contacted me. Apparently my father lost his business during COVID, my mom has always being a SHM, they declared bankruptcy and are really struggling (they live in an old camper). Also apparently my mom is diabetic now and my dad has always had heart problems. They wanted my help. I said no, I don't have parents anymore. And furthermore according to their religion and church my money was earned while sinning so to use it is to damn your soul to hell and I really didn't want
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    Font - 3 2 32 No_Rope_8 & 56 More Asshole Enthusiast [8] ago Hi! Former conservative Christian homeschool child turned pagan lesbian witch here! I also don't talk to my parents, but wasn't smart enough to get into stripping while I was young enough for it to be profitable! You have absolutely NO obligation to help them if you don't want to. BUT if it's going to gnaw at you to not help them and it's not going to be a hardship TO help them, consider this. Under their belief system, you are now an
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    Font - DreamingDragonSoul · 8 days ago Right answer here. 3.7k Reply Share •.. 34 No_Rope_81 Asshole Enthusiast [8] ago I don't live by many tenets of my old faith any more, but Proverbs 25:21-22 has often steered me well: "If your enemy is hungry, give him food to eat; if he is thirsty, give him water to drink. In doing this, you will heap burning coals on his head, and the Lord will reward you." 8.6k 3 Reply Share •.. GotenRock 8 days she should write that on the check ago memo 5.9k Reply Shar
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    Font - InShapeTrucker · 8 days ago S NTA. They disowned you. And now they're only contacting you because they need help. No to make amends for their horrific actions. And you're absolutely right. If the rest of the family lived true to their words they used to guilt you, your parents would have help and a place to stay in a heartbeat. They're hypocrites. They all need to apologize first and repair the relationship (if that's even possible) before any help is considered. 4.8k Reply Share
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    Font - remotegrowthtb · 8 days ago Yep, OP ask yourself, if they didn't desperately need the money, would they be contacting you or even thinking about you at all? They sound like they would have been happy to continue the disownment for life if they'd been doing well. If they'd shown a little remorse or apologized for anything maybe, but this just sounds like a money grab on their part. and my dad said that they didn't know where they went wrong with me. Basically putting the fault on you for n
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    Font - thirdtryisthecharm · 8 days ago Commander in Cheeks [203]| NTA Though in your case I'd be tempted to send a month's income with a note that says "This is thanks for the good time in my childhood. But you disowned me, so do not contact me ever again regarding money - this is a one time gift." That both resolves any mixed feelings you have, and makes you the bigger person. But to be clear, you don't owe them the money - it's about what you want to do. 2.2k 3 Reply Share •.. ruthlessshenanig
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    Font - Southern-Carpet3500 · 8 days ago Ask yourself this, would they be reaching out to reconnect with you if they didn't need financial aid. I think the answer would be no. NTA 1.0k Reply Share
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    Font - del901 · 8 days ago Pooperintendant [51] NTA. In religious parlance, "they reaped what they sowed". They disowned you and didn't care if you were homeless when you...the horror...chose to go to the college of your choice. Btw, you have a good head on your shoulders, planning for the future. Have you considered going back to college when you retire? 983 Reply Share •.. Born-Problem-8280 OP · 8 days ago I took some community college courses to learn how to manage my money and everything, an

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